(Sorry, more wedding photos...
but they make my point!)
And now, back to our regularly scheduled program. A continuing saga from the book "The Friendships of Women" by Dee Brestin.
Chapter 7 Best Friends
Can we have more than one best friend? What exactly is a "best friend"? "Best friend often does mean the friend you love the most, [but] it can also mean a friend with whom you have a deep rapport... a soul mate, a kindred spirit." So, with this clarification, I feel confident to say that I actually do have best friends. (Contrary to a former post.) Wow, this may not be earth shattering information to you, but for me... well, sometimes clarification is my best friend! (hee, hee)
There was a time when I didn't realize that I could actually choose my best friends. I thought they just "happened." Whoever was convenient. Whoever was similar. (That's what I did in grade school and ended up with two kind, caring best friends--Sally and Colleen. We've since drifted apart... 3,000 miles... maybe a Christmas card now and then... no, I never did send out Christmas cards.) Now, as I mature in my friendships I understand that it is imperative to be thoughtful... discerning... wise... in the selection of my closest friends...
I've always thought that there should be required classes for the truly important roles in our lives like making best friends, becoming a good parent, being a loving wife... So, the revelation hits me now at 39 that I think God meant for us to learn these critical lessons from our family of origin.
So, now, I am beginning to understand my ignorance has actually brought about feelings of friendlessness. My friends have always been here... but, again, as I always do, I rely upon feelings instead of facts. I have to tell you that I am really feeling freed by accepting these truths. Thanks for hanging in there with me. I'm feeling much more comfortable in my skin these days. Hope you are, too!