“Father, make of me a crisis man. Bring those I contact to decision. Let me not be a milepost on a single road;
make me a fork
, that men must turn one way or another on facing Christ in me.” - Jim Elliot

Saturday, December 12, 2009

unappreciated uncelebrated unaffirmed and unapplauded.

Reflection of Half Dome. Photography by Christopher.

Let us not become weary in doing good,
for at the proper time

we will reap a harvest
if we do not give up.

Galatians 6:9 NIV

Siesta Scripture Memory Verse 8

She called me yesterday. She was weary. And from our conversation I could tell that she felt
and unapplauded.
Of course she did. She is a mother. She was tired of not only doing it all... but being noticed for none of it all.

Anonymous. Unnoticed. Hidden.

Alicia Britt Chole talks about this in her book, Anonymous: Jesus' hidden years and yours. How "we were designed by God to desire acceptance and affirmation ultimately from him and also from each other."

But sometimes... we grow weary in waiting for that affirmation. And we long for that affirmation. And we start to get angry at those not giving us the affirmation we desire. The affirmation we think we deserve. And desiring affirmation is not wrong. But demanding affirmation can begin to tear down our reserves and we start to give up. It can start to tear relationships apart.

... and in the end, we miss the harvest. All of the time and effort... gone. Because we give up.

So what do we do when don't get the accolades we are seeking? Alicia suggests embracing the opportunity. Essentially if others aren't going to affirm who we are... or what we are doing... then we have to do it ourselves... with God's help. If we feel insignificant to others, we are in the right place to determine where our significance comes from. "Stripped of what others affirmed in us, we are left staring at our undecorated selves, wondering what makes us truly special."

And if we take the opportunity to "develop a healthy portrait of ourselves" we will reap the harvest--"an unshakable identity." And the best place to start? In the Word of God. Reading it. Memorizing it. Wielding it. Praying it.

And perhaps picking up a book like Anonymous... and discussing it with a friend. Because sometimes we need someone to come along and offer... a word of "edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear." (Ephesians 4:29)

So let's not allow ourselves
to get fatigued doing good.
At the right time we will harvest
a good crop if we don't give up, or quit.
Galatians 6:9 MSG


elaine @ peace for the journey said...

When I finally began to see myself more clearly in the mirror... seeing myself from heavenly perspective rather than an earthly one, then I truly began to break free from needing a great deal of affirmation. I allow God that privilege, and I know it when I have it.

You're right... the more we're in the Word, the more we gain his perspective.

Have a great Monday, friend.

peace to you this week~elaine

elizabeth embracing life said...

Sheri, This is so good. So many times coming alongside the heart of an appreciated wife, mother, or employee the first question I ask is why do you have such a strong need for affirmations from so and so and it always comes down to lack of self, and then lack of understanding God so deeply. When I am feeling the need to bed for affirmation I often look towards the Heavens and there my heart is blessed.