Some of you may already know the story of Audrey. She is the daughter of Todd and Angie Smith... and her brief life lasted 2 1/2 hours. Todd is a vocalist for the band Selah. Their song I Will Carry You was written in Audrey's memory. Angie has a blog and a an upcoming book.
Here is the sidebar for the article "2 1/2 Hours with Audrey" from Thriving Family Magazine, January/February 2010. It is how to help those who are grieving the loss of a child... including those who have miscarried.
How to Help
The loss of a child is devastating for a family. If you've never experienced that loss, you may feel uncertain about how to support and comfort those who have. Angie and Todd Smith offer the following suggestions for walking with families through the grieving process:
Be available. Let them know you are willing to help, to pray, to do whatever they need.
Be a good listener. Learn to sit in silence, simply weeping with those who weep.
Allow them to be honest. Even if their thoughts and feelings aren't theologically accurate, don't criticize or correct them.
Don't take it personally. If you feel shut out by friends or family, realize that it is part of their grieving process.
Send letters, cards and e-mails. Acknowledge significant birthdays and anniversaries.
Avoid comments such as, "At least you have two other children," or "At least it was only eight weeks." You don't need to explain or attempt to fix the brokenness.
Avoid cliches or pat answers. While they may contain some truth, they are meaningless to the grieving person.
Don't avoid asking how they are doing. Let them know you care.
Talk about the baby by name. You can take cues to continue talking or change the subject according to the response of the grieving parent.
I'm including a YouTube video from Audrey's family of the song I Will Carry You... it is a touching memorial to Audrey Caroline... and perhaps will bring someone comfort or hope. Much love.