“Father, make of me a crisis man. Bring those I contact to decision. Let me not be a milepost on a single road;
make me a fork
, that men must turn one way or another on facing Christ in me.” - Jim Elliot

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Trapped! I Took the Bait.

No temptation has seized you 
except what is common to man. 
And God is faithful; 
he will not let you be tempted 
beyond what you can bear. 

But when you are tempted, 
he will also provide a way out 
so that you can stand up under it. 

1 Corinthians 10:13


I caught a mouse the other day.  Well, actually, I set a trap to catch a mouse.  After 24 hours, I caught the mouse.  He had no way out once caught.  And after some self-talk about bravery and courage... 24 hours after that... I emptied the trap.

Have you ever been caught in a trap?  Of course, the bait for you wasn't peanut butter.  Perhaps it was food... or perhaps... lying... or cheating... or speeding... or alcohol... or pornography... or infidelity?  And when you're in that trap... after you have been caught, you look to the heavens and say something like, "Lord, I thought you said you would provide a way out... but I'm stuck now... and I have to suffer the consequences."

I hate to admit that I decided to watch "He's Just Not That Into You" a couple weeks ago.  It is not a movie that I would normally watch... but I was sick... and bored... and it was free... and having heard of it from others... I decided it was for educational purposes... and took the bait.

You know the feeling a day or two after you eat something that doesn't settle right in your stomach?  Every now and then... the aftertaste... ugh, and it reminds you of how sick it made you... and you wish you had never ate it... and will shy away from eating it in the future?  That is how I have felt since watching that movie.

And since watching the movie, I have questioned -- in my mind -- my husband's loyalty to me... and my attractiveness to him.  He had just come home from a few days of travel which did not help matters.  And some of the scenes and conversations of the movie.  Ugh, aftertaste.

And some of you may think that I am a prude for shying away from movies like this... but I'm telling you that I hate the aftertaste... so the only way to avoid it... is to not take the bait.

Because here's the thing... God does provide a way out.  Every time.  But it is within the time of temptation.  Not after the sin.

Think of the mouse... he was tempted because of the bait... but if he would have looked around and noticed the trap... he would have realized that there truly was a way out... DON'T GO INTO THE TRAP.  But he took the bait.  And there was no way out for him.

So, for me... perhaps I set the bar a bit higher for things I put into my mind... because I am easily tempted... and once I take the bait... I'm trapped.  And God will be there with me.  He will help me through the consequences of being trapped... but if I turn to Him now and say... "Where was the way out that you promised in my temptation?"  He will gently say, "It was called the power off button."

I'm not saying that watching certain movies are a sin... but for me... being the thinker that I am... I remember things... and then think about them.  It is how I am wired.  I think and the temptation to daydream... which leads to... ugh, aftertaste.

So, for me... I'm choosing to stay as far away from the bait... and the trap as possible.  Prude, perhaps... but prudent, definitely!


*This is one of the 70 unpublished posts I mentioned here. I still had no intention of posting it... but I caught another mouse today.  It was a big one.  And I thought I better post this before God prompts me in some other way!

13 comments:

Amy said...

Good, deep and challenging thoughts. For me, I can't watch t.v. shows or movies that contain issues on child abductions or abuse. They haunt me. Sure, they're compelling dramas, but the aftertaste nearly kills me. It takes days for me to work through the fears and anxiety they drudge up. The best thing to do is not go there to begin with!

Patti said...

I love seeing these "hidden" posts!! I watched that movie too, thinking it might be good with an "all star cast" but thought it was absolutely AWFUL. SO sad that our society takes all that is sacred out of sex and marriage and exploits it for entertainment. Movies affect me a lot too, the bad ones haunt me for days. Therefore, I try to avoid them but sometimes I give in because everyone else saw it and liked it, etc.

Good job on catching the mice! :)

Vicki Cluxton said...

I agree wholeheartedly. We (hubby and I) have high standards about movies - and we are like dinosaurs among our friends and family. But our minds are not prone to wander into the thoughts put there by an industry that seeks to tear down marriage anyway. What a good idea to publish the post - if this is anything like what you haven't published yet, bring 'em on! Great stuff!

Just Call Me Grammy said...

Great post...I agree a million percent. As Christians we need to be sensitive to the subtle effects things like movies have on our thinking. My hubby and I are also given a hard time even among friends and family about the line we have drawn FOR OURSELVES on what we will see or not see. Sometime I still need to be reminded because of the draw publicity has on me. I actually looked at that movie last night at the video store and thought for a moment...it surely couldn't be that bad. Thanks for a great reminder.

Christina said...

Wow, that was sure thought provoking. Not just about what we watch but about other things in our lives. In so many things we do we expect God to save us but we forget that our time for him to save us was in the beginning before we got ourselves into the mess. Thanks for the quick "lesson". Can't wait to read more.

Joyce said...

Goodness. I am so glad I haven't seen that movie. It sure did play with your mind didn't it. That's how those "traps" work though and sadly....people take that "bait" every single days in many different ways.

It's so easy to watch stupd, non profitable things on TV when we are sick or have the blues or whatever. But again that is the bait isn't it. It's a form of escape almost.
We rarely go to movies..not against them, we are just "selective" and there hasn't been much we want to see. And we rarely rent them for the very same reason. Plus they are all so expensive and then if you see a bad one....makes it even worse. Aww and then the guilt. Been there done that as well.

I am going to see "Young Victoria" with some friends tomorrow night. I previewed the trailor and it looked decent and historical which is what I like. My good friend previewed it as well... so we set the date up to go with some other friends and oddly......it's only playing in one movie theatre in all of Baton Rouge and even only in the evenings.
Must not be "way up there" on people's "to view" lists.
Thanks for your honesty.....if people would be more honest about things/ life issues...then we could really get further down the road with many folks.
People are just sick of all the "fakeness" and "non transparancy"...I want to "real"..like the "Velveten Rabbit."
:~)

Deborah said...

What a great post! Share more hidden posts.

Isn't it great that God dosen't always leave you in the trap and sometimes he takes the pain away....even when we take the bait.

Mama Bev said...

I'm with you, girl! I just can't read any romance novels, do soap operas, or most "romantic comedy" movies because they just do too many "aftertaste" things in my brain! It's either unreasonable expectations of my husband, or just a setup for mistrust that gets me. Thanks for posting.

christy rose said...

I am so glad that you published this. It is so good! It is so true that He always provides a way out when we look for it. His grace is sufficient. :)

Lora said...

So true, so true! Our oldest teen was recently convicted to give up movies for some of the very same reasons you mentioned. I think we have to be looking for and seeking that way out too before we bite the bait. Lord, please make me more aware!

Looking forward to more of your treasures that are in your unpublished file.

UL Cards Fan said...

Dear Sheri,
I LOVED this post. Yesterday's sermon was "Why do I continue to struggle with the same old sin(s)" and I was really struck by Luke 11 :24-26 which " shows us that when we overcome a weakness, we must put something in it's place or it will come back even stronger."
So glad GOD (and Beth) brought us together. Love, LINDA

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

The more immersed we become in the things of God, the more repulsed we are to the things apart from him. I completely get this one...

I have a few triggers I must avoid, less my mind goes places it shouldn't wander. Every now and again, though, I'm surprised by something and find myself surrounded by crud that leaves a bitter aftertaste.

I think this is a good thing... it means we're onto something with Jesus.

peace~elaine

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

The more immersed we become in the things of God, the more repulsed we are to the things apart from him. I completely get this one...

I have a few triggers I must avoid, less my mind goes places it shouldn't wander. Every now and again, though, I'm surprised by something and find myself surrounded by crud that leaves a bitter aftertaste.

I think this is a good thing... it means we're onto something with Jesus.

peace~elaine